Not everyone has a place to go on Valentine’s Day.
Some are content without a significant other to wine and dine, while others are separated from their loves by states, occupations or even an ocean.
Still others have special needs that make participating in traditional social situations a challenge.
Capernaum, a team focused on creating community opportunities for teenagers with disabilities, is planning a Valentine’s Day where everyone feels included.
“These are the kids who don’t get invited on a normal basis,” Kim Sosa said. Her son, Niko, has autism. Together, they have been attending Capernaum’s Valentine’s Day Gala for the past six years.
Niko, 17, said he enjoys the food and the dancing, as well as the chance to meet new people. A few days before this year’s event, he was already planning his outfit for this year: white shirt, jeans and a red tie. After much haranguing, Niko pinky-promised to slip away from his friends for a moment to share one dance with his mom.
The Sosas have been regulars at the gala almost since its inception. Capernaum – which is named for a biblical town – has presented the event for about seven years, which celebrates not love between a couple, but love between friends.
The group is part of the national Christian teen ministry, Young Life, and works to give students and especially teenagers with disabilities the chance to experience genuine friendship in a loving community. Williamsburg Capernaum is supported by a number of churches in the area, with volunteers from local high schools and the college. They put on a variety of events throughout the year, including movie nights, bowling outings and a regular weekly meeting club.
The Valentine’s Day Gala is one of the best attended events, said Kristen Lied, director of Williamsburg Capernaum and organizer for the gala.
Lied said the group tries to bring something new to the table each year, but there is always food, music, dancing games and a positive group spirit.
Bo Vaiden, 24, is not looking forward to dressing up as much as Niko, but he is excited about the desserts and dancing. A Capernaum student with down syndrome, he looks forward to the Valentine’s Day Gala as a chance “just to spend time with friends and family.”
Lied agreed, and said the dance works to expand the standard perception of the holiday as exclusively for couples. By expanding the definition of love to include friendship and the community at large, Capernaum has created an amorous celebration that aims to embrace all people—no matter their special needs.
The free event will be held from 6 to 8 p.m. today at the James City County Recreation Center. New this year is the partnership with the county’s Inclusion program, which provides activities and awareness programs to serve the disability community.
There will be plenty of old friends, but it is also a night to form new bonds in supportive space.
“If you know someone that needs a little special place to go to, all our welcome,” Kim Sosa said.
For additional information on the Valentine’s Day Gala, contact Kristin Lied at 724-816-8242 or [email protected]. To learn more about Williamsburg Capernaum, visit their website.
