David W. Carlile passed away peacefully after a long illness in Sentara Hospital in Virginia Beach with his loving husband, Bryan, and his fellow Navy Sailors by his side on May 9, 2023.
David was born on January 4, 1981 in Rome, New York to proud parents, David W. Carlile, Sr. and Connie (Nernes) Kangas. David was educated in Rome Schools and involved in sports, boy scouts and church activities, but his real passion was the theater. As a child and young adult he performed in numerous performances with various groups including Rising Stars and Broadway Bound. He had roles in Kiss Me Kate, Godspell, etc. He loved being on stage and he enjoyed all aspects of the theater from production to directing. He was also a very talented visual artist.
He graduated from Westmoreland High School and attended Mohawk Valley Community College for Criminal Justice. While in university, he worked at Toys R Us and assisted in opening up new stores in Rochester and Times Square, but decided instead on a career in finance. He said he liked how dynamic the markets were, so he went to work at the Bank of New York and worked in Manhattan helping to diversify after the collapse of the twin towers on 911. David then proceeded to get licensed with his series 7, 6 and 63 licenses and worked as a financial advisor. David was active in the community. He ran for the office of County Legislator and served on the board of Steven Swan’s Humane Society. David loved animals and was a lifetime supporter of the ASPCA.
At 33, David decided he wanted to travel the world and he proudly joined the U S Navy. He was assigned the USS Harry Truman and was able to travel to amazing places such as Dubai and Southern France, but he enjoyed Bahrain, Crete, Croatia and England the most. David was most touched by the rise in Navy suicides and even lost a close friend, so he was passionate about helping in any way he could by working with the Stop Soldier Suicide organization.
On November 6, 2015, David married the love of his life, Bryan Polczynski, and they set up their new home with their pup, Cody in Virginia Beach.
David leaves behind his mother and father. He also leaves his sister, Emily Seelig, Rome, New York, his sister, Elizabeth (Kangas) Bishop, Fort Mead Maryland, and his brothers, Stephen and Jacob Kangas from Rome, New York, He leaves his loving husband, Bryan and his very special pup, Cody.
David was a shining star, full of compassion and wit. He was kind and non judgmental. He was passionate about making the world a better place, one kind act at a time. He was especially caring towards the vulnerable and was always there to be a good friend, a listening ear, or to give a big “David” bear hug. He is sadly missed by all who loved him.
